The most important thing in a relationship is emotional maturity.
And the most important part of emotional maturity is the ability to take responsibility.
Tonight Taylor and I watched Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far on Foot, a comedy-drama that came out this year, based on the story of cartoonist John Callahan.
Callahan was an alcoholic before he was a cartoonist. And in between being an alcoholic and drawing cartoons, he got in an accident and became a paraplegic, which (eventually) changed his life for the better.
It ends on a relatively high note, but it took the entire film (and well into his actual adult life) for Callahan to learn the most important lesson:
Step 10 from Alcoholics Anonymous,
Callahan struggles with this one. He blames his mother, the driver of a car, his attendant… he blames everyone but himself.